Learning is the key to maintaining a positive relationship with success and failure

Who hasn’t jumped up with joy at achieving something we have strived for and who hasn’t shed a tear if things have not gone our way? Depending on how well you take success and failure, you could be leaping from one giant extreme to another. Going from the depths of despair to unknown heights can’t be overly healthy, can it? The key is educating yourself through every process and learning through reflective practices. If we perceive each achievement or failure as an outcome or result, then the ability to improve and learn from our actions reduces dramatically. The whole process vs outcome combat comes into play here. If we really break things down and look at the biggest picture possible, the process never stops. Ex England Rugby star, Johnny Wilkinson refers to this as, ‘creating an internal environment for potential to blossom’. He referred to facing failure with ‘curiosity and intrigue’ and learning from the emotions and feelings that lead to every outcome. In other words, there are no barriers or restrictions to success or failure, it’s a lifelong process of learning about yourself. When we reflect on our actions and learn from our shortcomings, ultimately, we possess a more positive, powerful, and educated mindset.

What have I learnt about myself as a result of this process?
How did I react when I fell short of my goals?
What feelings and emotions were in the way of achieving my full potential?
What steps will I put in place to ensure I improve?
What will I change about my mindset when I am faced with adversity moving forward?